You are who you attract!

What once began with "Tell me what you eat, and I will tell you what you are", later became "a man is what he eats". (Anthelme Brillat-Savarin. Ludwig Andreas Feuerbach.)

What was meant was "the food one eats has a bearing on what one's state of mind and health are." In other words, the two are directly related. Sort of a cause and effect or domino effect if you will.

I contend the same is true of the statement "You are who you attract". Meaning 'the people you attract (both friendships and relationships) have a bearing on where your state of mind/heart are'

For a few years I judged my love for God by the things I most publicly did. The bible studies I facilitated, the sincere time I spent helping others, and the Christian events I attended. But if one took a magnifying glass to my relationships with the opposite sex, they would have found me fraternizing with men who were nothing like the God I claimed to love & teach about. One could say I was living quite the double life. Claiming to want a godly man (one who feared and served God) yet quick to contact the ones in my "black book" who could swoon me and secretly satisfy my lusts.

Upon reading a book, I began to wonder why I was attracting these "bugga-wolves" (I like to call them) and I quickly came to realize that it was me. Like attracts like. I attract sexual guys because I wanted to be sexual (lets keep it real). I wanted a pure man to desire me, but I didn't want (myself) to be pure; although deep down I thought I did.

Once I made a decision to starve myself from the ugly (yet natural desires I had) and lose myself in what God wanted for my life, godly men poured into my life for the following 10 years. Every man that pursued me (with an serious intent) was someone who was walking with the Lord and admired me (from a distance) because they saw the same in me.

As I look at my circle of friends, I can sincerely say that the people I keep closest are those who (aren't perfect) but strive to keep short accounts with God, seek accountability, serve others and want their lives to reflect Gods love to others. This has made my life very rich and overflowing as these women keep me sharp (in character). Furthermore, I don't have to hope for a godly man, I know one will find me 'gleaning in my field' (Ruth 2) someday.