Is it wrong to use internet sites to find a mate? Is it unbiblical and therefore morally inappropriate? Does it somehow hinder the Believer from allowing God to be Sovereign? Does it indicate that a single doesn't trust God to find and send their mate?
Or...
Is it a means which God uses to draw people together? Can it be a culturally relevant tool that God sovereignly chooses to help people find each other? Does it even matter to God that His children use this method of connecting?
All of these are the debatable responses I've witnessed. I'm not here to defend one over the other; I am here to emphasize one concept that we as children of God must consider and be sensitive to.
That in seemingly gray issues like this, God is still a black and white God. What I mean is that even the smallest of details of life are important to Him. Nothing is too small, insignificant or too culturally removed for Him to be a part of. He desires to be welcomed into and sought in every decision we make.
James 1 says He will freely give wisdom to us, when we ask. Jeremiah 29:13 says we WILL surely find Him when we seek Him with our entire heart.
So, what's the verdict then, Kim? Is it right or is it wrong? Well that's the unique thing about
wisdom. God is able to give one person the wisdom to make a choice that is fitting, wise and purposeful for their life. All of this, while issuing (different) wisdom for another person that is unique to their life and the glory He desires to extract from it. What's the common thread? That the wisdom He disperses, though different and specific, is shaped for God to gain glory from that persons life. There is no cookie cutter way to remain within the will of God. His perfect will is designed to protect us from our flesh's natural ability to self-destruct. His permissive will allows us freedom to operate in ways that give us opportunity to seek Him for guidance. He is Lord, but He desires for us to choose His Lordship by seeking Him in issues like this.
My preference isn't to use online devices. I also don't care for guys hollering at me in random public places, therefore I'm not inclined to give them my number when they do. Not for religious purposes, it's just that I choose to believe God will and can place me in the right circles with mutual believing friends and places to cross paths with amazing godly men. I also trust He will give me the wisdom to discern their intentions and accept their pursuit. He's proven to do so in the past and though I'm not bound to my preference, it's the method within which I choose to trust God at this point in my life.
I've also witnessed a few friends who have found and pursued their mate using social media and are walking in godly relationship with their mate. I've not yet put myself on a dating website to be found, but it doesn't mean that my choice is more or less godly than my friend who does.
Romans 14 (entire chapter) speaks well of this concept. My favorite part and the culminating message is in the final verses of the chapter, "Blessed are those who don’t feel guilty for doing
something they have decided is right. But if you have doubts about [whether or not you should eat something], you are sinning if you go ahead and do it. For you are not following your convictions. If you do anything you believe is not right, you are sinning."
